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Welcome to VisionQuest Society’s Residence Program
We are here to Share
Our Experience, Strength & Hope
That you too can stay
Clean, Sober and Peaceful.

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MISSION STATEMENT
VisionQuest will bring substance-addicted clients into a comprehensive healing journey, involving mind, body, and spirit.  We are dedicated to providing the most positive, affirming, life-altering experience possible in a safe, professional and reliable manner using a holistic approach.

 

VISION STATEMENT 

VisionQuest Recovery Society Is A long- term treatment center for those with addictions. People who truly want to heal from the ravages of addiction, from all walks of life, and from all Nations will participate in a comprehensive program based on the Twelve Steps and complimented by an extensive and thorough program developed by VisionQuest staff.


We believe:

All people entering recovery need to be treated with dignity and respect
People thrive where there is beauty and where they can create beauty
People thrive in an atmosphere of acceptance
People feel safe when surrounded by good boundaries and guidelines
People have the right to play
People should, ideally, have the opportunity to reach their finest potential

 VisionQuest believes that the individual, with a growing healthy support network, restored family ties, an educational/therapeutic healing program, and the belief in a ‘Power Greater than self” can resolve addictive behavioral patterns that render one powerless and seemingly without choice regarding self-destructive behaviors.


Policies and Procedures

When you arrive:
First thing we will cover are your criminal conditions, if you have any. At that point, we will begin our intake procedure with you; as well we will be taking a photo of you for our records. During the intake procedure, we will be going over your medical history as well as your history of using. Any and all medications in your possession must at that point be turned over to the staff member doing your intake. All medications are dispensed at very specific times by staff only. While in our care, you will be seen by our doctors only. You will not be permitted to see any other doctor other than the medical staff which is approved by our society. The reason for this is simple, not all doctors are on the same page as far as addictive drugs go. You will be asked for information of your medical history, and any medications you are currently on, and for what reason. We will then go over the facility rules and regulations, which you will be required to sign off on for proof of reading, understanding, and agreed compliance.

Drug testing:
Drug testing will happen without notice, at our discretion. Refusal to comply with testing may result in immediate discharge, as well as an incident letter to your legal team. Should you test positive, you will also be charged for the cost of the test, which is 75.00. This will be deducted from your cheque. All visitors will be tested as well. Should any of your visitors test positive, they will be banned from our society for one month, at which time they may re-try. Should they fail a second time, they will have the opportunity to try one more time. If they should test positive for the third time, they may at that point be banned from our society permanently, other than of course to become a client should they wish to get sober.

Allergies:
Please inform the staff member doing your intake of any and all allergies you have. Please be specific, especially if there is anything pertaining to food, as some can be fatal. Our kitchen does not readily supply a special menu, so please take responsibility for your own health in this regard.

Valuables:

VisionQuest will not be held responsible for any lost or stolen property within our society. You are responsible for your own valuables. If you have anything of great value, you may lock it in our safe, or find another solution for safe keeping. When you arrive at center creek, or any of our second stage sites, you will be required to provide a full inventory list of your personal possessions, primarily any items worth over 50.00. As stated previously, our society will not be held responsible for any loss or stolen property.

Confidentiality:
Your confidentiality is important to us. We will not share any information pertaining to you or your treatment without your written consent. The only exception is to your legal team, or if you express any notion of suicide or serious harm to another human being. You must also be respectful of other client’s confidentiality in our society. This includes not sharing any information about what is said or done in group workshops. What happens or what is said in the groups, stays in the group. This is to protect every member in our society, you included. Personal growth is a very private, personal, and deep event, and everybody has the right to privacy in this matter. Our society also requests that you not disclose anybody’s last name. When you have a visitor, please just introduce people by their first name only. You may not discuss anybody else’s personal, private situations with anybody outside of our society, no exceptions.

Discharge:
It is our society policy that thirty days written notice must be provided before you leave our care. The exceptions to this rule are if you have breached society rules and regulations and are asked to leave, if you go back to jail, or if you have qualified for our second stage care program. At that time you would be moving into second stage housing, but still remain in our society. Should you not provide thirty days written notice and just leave, you may be charged the one months’ rent.

 

Complaints:
 If at any time you have any concerns or complaints about services or staff, please let us know. You have the right to express your feelings and concerns in a reasonable fashion, and to have your concerns heard. We encourage our clients to use healthy communication with each other and with staff at all times. You may file a written complaint with the management staff, if you are unable to communicate effectively with the other party involved. From the date in which you have filed your written complaint, we will, within seven days, have a meeting with you and the other party involved to try to resolve the issue. If at that time a resolution is unattainable, the executive director will take the matter to the board for a final decision.

Today’s thought is:

 

Step One

We admitted we were powerless over our addiction and that our lives had become unmanageable.

There are many different versions of the First Step for recovering codependents. Some of us admit powerlessness over addiction or another’s addiction. Some of us admit powerlessness over people; some over the impact of growing up in an addiction family lifestyle.

One of the most significant words in the First Step is the word we. We come together because of a common problem, and, in the coming together, we find a common solution.

Through the fellowship of Twelve Step programs, many of us discover that although we may have felt alone in our pain, others have experienced a similar suffering. And now many are joining hands in a similar recovery.

We. A significant part of recovery. A shared experience. A shared strength, stronger for the sharing. A shared hope – for better lives and relationships.

Today, I will be grateful for the many people all across the world who would call themselves “recovering codependents.” Help me know that each time one of us takes a step forward; we pull the entire group forward.

 

I’m Your Disease

 

I hate meetings. I Hate a Higher Power.

I hate anyone who has a program.

To all who come into contact with me I wish you Death and Suffering.

Allow me to introduce myself. I’m the disease of addiction and alcoholism- cunning baffling and powerful. That’s me. I have killed millions and I’m pleased.

 I love to catch you with the element of surprise. I love pretending I’m your friend and lover. I have given you comfort have I not? Wasn’t I there when you were lonelyWhen you wanted to die, didn’t you call me? I was there. I love to make you hurt; I make you so numb you can neither hurt nor cry. You can’t feel anything at all. This is true glory. I will give you instant gratification and all I ask of you is long-term suffering. I’ve been there for you always.

When things were going right in your life, you invited me. You said you didn’t deserve these good things and I was the only one who would agree with you. Together we are able to destroy all good things in your life.

People don’t take me seriously. They take strokes seriously, heart attacks seriously, even diabetes seriously. Fools that they are, they don’t realize that without my help none of these things would be made possible.

I’m such a hated disease and yet I don’t come uninvited. You choose to have me. So many of you have chosen me over reality and peace. More than you hate me; I hate all of you who have a 12-step program. Your program, your meetings, and your higher power all weaken me and I can’t function in the manner I am accustomed to.

Now I must lie there quietly. You don’t see me but I am growing…bigger than ever.
When you only exist, I may live.

When you live I only exist. But I am here…. and until we meet again, if we ever meet again, wish you death and suffering.

And Then I will Turn Around and do it to Your Children

 

VisionQuest Policy and House Rules

The following guideline is the policy set by VisionQuest along with rules that must be adhered to by all VisionQuest residents:

 

  1. 1.       Abstinence:
  • Complete abstinence from all mood altering substances is mandatory.  Caffeine and Nicotine are allowed
  • Clients must submit to random drug testing. Failure to do so will be deemed as a positive result and may result in eviction
  • A positive test will result in a $75.00 surcharge.
  1. 2.       Smoking:
  • Smoking is allowed in designated areas only.  Cigarettes butts must be put in a container. No cigarette butts on property or immediate vicinity of property.
  1. 3.       Restrictions:
  • For the first 3 months of your stay with VisionQuest you are not permitted to use a phone or lap tops or  leave the residence, except for the purpose of medical emergency, legal matters or to attend activities approved by VisionQuest Society and then only with approved company (i.e. 1 senior and 2 other approved residents.) This may be extended for non compliance.
  1. 4.       Curfew:
  • A house curfew from 10:00pm to 6:00am is in effect from Sunday to Thursday. The curfew on Fridays Saturdays, and the day before a holiday is 11:00pm to 6:00am. All clients must be on the premises during curfew, unless they have made prior arrangements with staff.
  1. 5.       Work:
  • Integration back to work is part of the program, and may be permitted after a complete assessment from the Drug and Alcohol Counselor, House staff and with the approval of the Director only.
  1. 6.       Groups and Meetings:
  • You are must attend all activities on time, unless previously excused by staff.  Groups, AA/NA meetings and church are mandatory, not optional, for all residents.
  1. 7.       Medication & Prescriptions:
  • All prescription drugs must be turned over to the House staff for safe storage. ALL FUTURE medications shall be prescribed by a doctor and delivered to VisionQuest by a staff member – no exceptions
  1. 8.       Emergency Procedures:
  • Emergency drills are to be treated as real emergencies. Fire Alarm: when the fire alarm sounds, all residents are immediately to proceed to the designated meet up area. Under no circumstances is a resident to re-enter a building after gathering prior to getting the all-clear.
  1. 9.        Food and Meal Times:
  • Meal times are set daily and will be served during those times only.  If a meal is expected to be missed, a “save” can be requested prior to the meal time.
  • Snacks:  Toast, juices and pastries may be eaten as a snack when available.  Clients must clean up after themselves immediately after making a snack.
  1. 10.    Laundry:
  • Laundry is a privilege. Maximum of 2 loads per week per client.
  • Use only the necessary setting, water level, temperature, and amount of detergent.
  • Remove your own laundry promptly from the laundry room and machines once completed.  Show respect for other people’s belongings.  Do not just throw other peoples laundry on the floor or the top the machine.
  1. 11.    Chores:
  • Chores are assigned by staff on a 1 week rotation and must be completed as is suitable for the functioning of the house.
  • If a chore is not completed properly a suitable consequence may be assigned.
  • If you are unavailable to do your chore due to a reason approved by staff, you must make arrangements to cover your chore.  You will still be held responsible for the completion of your chore whether or not you do it.

 

  1. 12.    Coming and Going:
  • It is important that the staff know where you are at all times, and any variation to the daily schedule must be approved by House Staff.
  • All residents are required to sign out when leaving premises, and sign in upon returning. (MANDATORY)
  • While out of the house, if there are any changes to plans, activities, or timeframes, clients are first required to call and receive permission from House Staff.
  1. 13.    Visitors:
  • Visitation is Saturday’s & Sundays from 1:00pm – 5:00pm.Visitors are only allowed to come during visiting hours.
  • Visitors are permitted in designated areas only.
  • Visitors must follow all house rules including being clean and sober.
  1. 14.    Conduct:
  • Respect should be shown to all clients of the house as well as in the community.  This includes outside meetings and on the house property.  Please respect the rules and values of meeting facilities and other persons.  Let’s be a good example to the public and to our neighbors.
  • Quiet time is from 10:00 pm to 11:00 pm:  Respect must be shown to roommates by ceasing all noise-making activities between 11:00 pm and 6:00 am.  This includes TV’s, audio, computers and cell phone conversation.
  • Common areas: Respect should be shown for fellow roommates by keeping all common areas clean and tidy.  Don’t leave study materials, dishes, tobacco, newspapers, and other belongings in common areas unattended.
  • TV and Audio to be kept at appropriate volume levels while in use.  Turn off TV and Audio when not being watched and or listened to. No TV before 7:30 am and 4:00 pm Monday to Friday, excluding holidays.
  • Headphone and cell phone use is prohibited during groups.  Clients may be asked to remove headphones if it is determined by staff that they are being used to isolate.
  • Do not touch any other clients’ belongings without permission. This includes food.
  • Do not enter any bedroom other than your own.
  • No sleeping during daytime hours. Wake up time is 7:00 am on weekdays and 10:00 am on weekends and holidays.
  1. 15.    Personal Relationships Policy
  • Clients may be asked to discontinue involvement with individuals that are deemed to be a negative influence on clients while at VisionQuest.  Individuals include, but are not limited to: partners who use, individuals from recent incarceration, individuals from previous treatment facilities who have relapsed, family members who use, or other “friends” who use. This includes involvement through writing, talking on the phone or seeing on visitation.  Visitors are not allowed on property if they are actively using.   During visits, visitors and clients are expected to behave modestly in regards to touching.  “Modest” kissing hello and good-bye is allowed.
  1. 16.    Dress Code:
  • The dress code is not meant to restrict nor dictate a client’s choice of clothing, but it is meant to create a safe, comfortable, discrimination free, and recovery oriented environment for all clients. Appropriate dress as presented in the VisionQuest policy will be adhered to at all times.
  • Clothes should be clean and laundered on a regular basis (once a week).
  • Clients must be dressed when not in room: shirt and pants or shorts.  This includes when walking to and from shower.
  • Residents must wear appropriate sleeping garments while sleeping.  Sleeping in the nude is not permitted.
  • Tank tops are not allowed while prepping and serving food.
  • Clothing exhibiting party scenes/profanity/alcohol or drug use/sexism/homophobia/sexual or implied sexual content are not allowed.
  • Hoods on jackets must not be worn indoors and sunglasses must be removed when inside the house.
  • If you are told by staff that a certain article of clothing is inappropriate, you are to change clothes immediately.  You are not to wear that article of clothing again while at VisionQuest.  This can be reviewed by the director who has ultimate say on this subject.
  1. 17.    Rooms:
  • Resident accommodations are double or more occupancy for the majority so share the area. No food is allowed in rooms.

 

  1. 18.    Bathroom and Showers:
  • Cleanliness:  Bathrooms and Showers to be kept neat and clean.  No urinating on the floor.  Sit down if you have to.  Wipe sink and faucets after use.  Generally clean up after yourself each time.
  • Showers are to be kept to a maximum of 15 minutes per client.  This includes your time in the shower and all other bathroom use.
  • House Staff may assign specific bathroom use priorities.
  1. 19.    Violence Policy:
  • VisionQuest has a zero tolerance to violence.  Violence will not be tolerated both physical and verbal.  No horseplay, verbal teasing or jousting.  No nicknames.
  1. 20.    Discrimination:
  • VisionQuest will not tolerate any discrimination with regards to race, religion, color, national origin, height, weight, marital status, or sexual orientation.
  1. 21.    Pornographic Items:
  • Sexually explicit pictures on cell phones, magazines, reading materials, movies or internet sites are not allowed at VisionQuest.  Staff will periodically complete room inspections and pornographic items will be confiscated.
  1. 22.    Giving Back
  • All clients attending VisionQuest will be required to perform 100 community hours over the duration of their stay. Such hours will be assigned by VisionQuest staff.
  1. 23.    Gossip:
  • No gossiping at any time. If there is a concern regarding another resident, talk to that resident or bring it up in group and/or to the house manager. Gossip destroys.
  1. 24.    Notice to vacate: 
  • A written thirty day notice of intention to move and vacate must be submitted from all residents on the first of the month prior to leaving VisionQuest.
  1. 25.    Personal Property:
  • VisionQuest will not be held responsible for personal items that are lost or stolen. Any personal items brought to VisionQuest are the sole responsibility of the client.
  • Upon a client leaving, any and all property left behind will be packed, under the supervision of House staff, and taken offsite where it will be kept for 15 days. If not claimed, it will be disposed of on the 16th day.
  1. 26.    Penalties:
  • Consequences for non-compliance may be implemented by House Staff as follows:

(1)     Performance Contract, (2) Relocation of room, OR (3) Termination of Residency.

  1. 27.    Complaints:
  • Any and all complaints can be addressed to the House Manager, or directed to the Executive Director.  If you are not satisfied with the end result, you can direct your concerns in writing to complaints@visionquestsociety.org which goes directly to the Society’s board.

VisionQuest Recovery Society Rent Policy

1)       Rent of $30.90 per day is due IN FULL NO LATER THAN the 1st of the month. A surcharge of $25 a week will be imposed for late rents. Should you be experiencing financial hardship, your circumstances may be considered, HOWEVER you must make arrangements with the Executive Director prior to the 1st of the month.

2)       The deadline for rent is the 5th of each month. If rent, including surcharge, is NOT paid by the 5th of the month, the Society reserves the right to evict clients immediately.

3)       A security deposit of $280.00 is required from all residents.

4)       Notice to vacate – A written thirty (30) day notice of intention to move and vacate must be submitted by all residents.

5)       Rent – All Room and Board cheques are to be made payable to VisionQuest Recovery Society.

6)       Refunds – All unused portions of rent will be returned within 10 working days to origin of payer.

7)       Refunds will only be given when proper notice of intention to move is received, and only then will funds be prorated accordingly.  When no notice is given we reserve the right to refund, or not, any portion of the rent to the payer.

8)       Unpaid Rent – Any outstanding amounts owed to VisionQuest for unpaid rent will be deducted accordingly prior to any refund.

9)    Eviction – The following infractions may result in immediate eviction:

(1) Stealing, (2) Using of any mood or mind altering substance, (3) Violence, (4) New criminal charge

MON

TUES

WED

THUR

FRI

SAT

SUN

7:00AM

Wake-up/

Personal Hygiene

7:00AM

Wake-up/

Personal Hygiene

7:00AM

Wake-up/

Personal Hygiene

7:00AM

Wake-up/

Personal

Hygiene

7:00AM

Wake-up/

Personal Hygiene

9:00AM

Wake-up/

Personal Hygiene

9:00AM

Wake-up/

Personal Hygiene

7:30AM Breakfast

7:30AM Breakfast

7:30AM Breakfast

7:30AM

Breakfast

7:30AM Breakfast

9:30AM Breakfast

9:30AM Breakfast

8:00AM Chores

8:00AM Chores

8:00AM Chores

8:00AM Chores

8:00AM Chores

11:00AM Chores

11:00AM Chores

9:00AM

Big Book Study

9:00AM

Big Book Study

9:00AM

Big Book Study

9:00AM

Big Book Study

9:00AM

Big Book Study

Big Chore Day

Group For Working Clients

CHURCH

10.00AM                                          Relapse                    Prevention

10.00AM                                          Relapse                    Prevention

10.00AM                                          Relapse                    Prevention

10.00AM                                          Relapse                    Prevention

10.00AM                                          Relapse                    Prevention

12:00PM   Lunch

12:00PM

Lunch

12:00PM   Lunch

12:00PM   Lunch

12:00PM   Lunch

12:00PM   Lunch

1:00PM  BRUNCH

12:30PM

House Tidy-up

12:30PM

House Tidy-up

12:30PM

House Tidy-up

12:30PM

House Tidy-up

12:30PM

House Tidy-up

12:30PM

House Tidy-up

1:30PM

House Tidy-up

1:00PM      Workshop

1:00PM

Appointments

(Dr’s, P.O. etc.)

OR Step Work

1:00PM      Workshop

1:00PM

Appointments

(Dr’s, P.O. etc.)

OR Step Work

1:00PM      Workshop

1:00PM      FREE TIME

1:00PM      VISIT/

FREE TIME

2:00PM      Workshop

2:00PM       Appointments

(Dr’s, P.O. etc.)

OR Step Work

2:00PM

Workshop

2:00PM       Appointments

(Dr’s, P.O. etc.)

OR Step Work

2:00PM

Workshop

2:00PM      FREE TIME

2:00PM

   VISIT/

   FREE TIME

3:00PM

Fitness

3:00PM

Appointments

(Dr’s, P.O. etc.)

OR Step Work

3:00PM

Fitness

3:00PM

Appointments

(Dr’s, P.O. etc.)

OR Step Work

3:00PM

Fitness

3:00PM      FREE TIME

3:00PM       VISIT/

FREE TIME

4:00PM

Step Work

4:00PM

Step Work

4:00PM

Step Work

4:00PM

Step Work

4:00PM

Step Work

4:00PM      FREE TIME

4:00PM       VISIT/

FREE TIME

5:30PM     Dinner

5:30PM     Dinner

5:30PM     Dinner

5:30PM     Dinner

5:30PM     Dinner

5:30PM     Dinner

5:30PM     Dinner

7:00PM      Outside                                                        AA/NA                                                         Meeting

7:00PM      Outside                                                        AA/NA                                                         Meeting

7:00PM      Outside                                                        AA/NA                                                         Meeting

7:00PM

House/Speaker                                                        AA/NA                                                         Meeting

7:00PM      Outside                                                        AA/NA                                                         Meeting

7:00PM      Outside                                                        AA/NA                                                         Meeting

7:00PM      Outside                                                        AA/NA                                                         Meeting

10:30PM

Curfew

10:30PM

Curfew

10:30PM

Curfew

10:30PM

Curfew

12:00AM

Curfew

12:00AM

Curfew

10:30PM

Curfew

11:00PM

Lights Out

11:00PM

Lights Out

11:00PM

Lights Out

11:00PM

Lights Out

2 :00AM

Lights Out

2 :00AM

Lights Out

11:00PM

Lights Out

 

 

 

VisionQuest Program Plan

Phase one recovery

Programs

 

  • Anger management
  • Life Skills
  • NA/AA 12 Steps

 

Workshops:

 

  • Post- acute withdrawal syndrome
  • Relapse Prevention
  • Problem Solving
  • Stress Management
  • Communication
  • Healthy Boundaries
  • Self – Esteem
  • Healthy relationships
  • Balanced Lifestyle

 

Post – acute withdrawal syndrome

  • Why don’t I feel better already?
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Fatigue
  • Memory problems
  • Night sweats
  • Unclear thinking
  • Emotional overreaction or numbness
  • Healthy habits while getting clean

 

 

 

 

Relapse Prevention

  • Recognizing your triggers
  • People, places and things
  • The pros and cons of using
  • How did using hurt you?
  • What does being sober mean to you, and why?
  • Who are your unsafe people, and why?
  • Who are your safe people, and why?
  • How do you feel waking up sober?
  • How do you feel waking up sick?
  • How many lives are affected by your addiction?
  • How has your life improved now that you are sober?
  • Building your support network

 

 

 

Problem solving

  • Start with the journal
  • The pros and cons
  • Stress management
  • Choosing the right words
  • Talk it out
  • Taking the right steps

Stress Management

 

  • Recognizing the signs of stress and tension
  • The price we pay for stress
  • Tools for emotional and mental release
  • Tools for physical release
  • Keeping yourself centered
  • The rewards of being centered

Communication

 

  • What are the different ways we communicate to others?
  • The art of body language
  • How our emotions can take center stage
  • Keeping our emotions in check
  • Stress and tension
  • The art of respect
  • Using words with care
  • Accountability

Healthy Boundaries

  • What is a personal boundary?
  • What are healthy boundaries to set?
  • Dealing with children
  • Dealing with the adult family
  • Learning how to say no
  • Learning the art of respect, and being respected

 

 

Self – Esteem

  • What is self – esteem?
  • Where did it come from?
  • How do we develop our sense of self?
  • Family values and how they affected us
  • Where do we go from here?
  • What do we want to be?
  • What are the core values that explain who you are today?

 

Healthy Relationships

  • What is a healthy relationship?
  • The six keys to success
  • Communication
  • What are healthy boundaries?
  • Signs of unhealthy boundaries
  • Basic rights in a relationship
  • Some characteristics of an unhealthy relationship
  • Characteristics of a healthy relationship

Balanced Lifestyle

  • What is a priority?
  • The importance of time management
  • Locating your clean community
  • Staying physically and emotionally healthy
  • Creating your weekly planner
  • Staying centered

 

Client Name: __________________________________________________ Date: _____________________

                           Please Print

 

To assist you in your treatment at the VisionQuest Centre, please complete the following as honestly and thoughtfully as you can.  This form is to be returned to us along with your financial and medical forms.

 

  1. My biggest block to staying clean and sober right now is:

_______________________________________________________________________________________

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  1. My personal strengths right now are:

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  1. My fears about treatment are:

 

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  1. Situations in my life that might interfere with treatment are:

 

_______________________________________________________________________________________

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  1. The changes I would like to see in myself by the end of treatment are:

 

  • In the area of substance misuse: __________________________________________________________

_______________________________________________________________________________________

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  • In the area of physical health:  ___________________________________________________________

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  • In the area of emotional health:  ________________________________________________________________

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  • In the area of inner wisdom/spiritual growth:  ____________________________________________________

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  • In the area of social/relationship growth:  ________________________________________________________

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Guidelines for Writing your Journal

 

Journal writing is a valuable tool for developing self-awareness.  Each day, perhaps just before bed, take some time to write down your reflections of the day.    Make sure to identify and record any of your feelings associated with events, relationships, individual or group process.  As you become more familiar with your true feelings, you will begin to develop an honest relationship with yourself and the world around you.

 

Journal writing offers the opportunity and space to get curious about yourself which in turn allows for personal acceptance, growth and empowerment.  By writing in your journal each day, you will develop an interesting and helpful profile that will direct your awareness to the kind of choices you are making and to the feelings you have about the way you are running your life.  Some of you may already keep a daily journal or have done so in the past.  For others, this may be the first time that you have ever kept a journal and you may feel confused.  The most important thing to remember is to identify and explore the feelings you have had through the day.  The following questions have been selected to help you begin, and develop your journal writing skills.

 

  • How did you begin the tasks of the day?
  • What were the thoughts that come unbidden to your mind?
  • While you were going through your day, were you aware of feelings or fantasies moving through your mind without you wanting them to be there?
  • Did you find hopes or wishes entering your mind without consciously putting them there or wanting them to be there?
  • What kind of relationships came about in the course of the day?
  • Were there experiences of love and affection?
  • Did you experience anxiety, frustration or anger? Did you feel sad, alone, or afraid?
  • How did you feel in the evening, as you grew weary emotionally or physically?
  • What was the mood of your thoughts and feelings as you prepared for bed?
  • What feelings do you find within you now that you have recorded these varied facts of your experience?
  • How did you feel while you were writing them?

 

We encourage you to keep our journal as a confidential document of your own change process.  Once you start writing for an audience, the depth of honesty you write can alter dramatically.  You can be the only person who writes in, is the primary character in, and reads your journal.  If you choose to share any portion of your journal with your counselor, this would be kept in strict confidence.

 

HAPPY WRITING

 Within the first two weeks and before you Start Step One you must complete the following:

 

  • A Good Bye Letter to your Addiction
  •  Say good bye to the lifestyle as well as negative outcome (I.e. Hep A B C, HIV, broken lives, ETC.)
  •  Last 90 Days – narrate it. Describe what happened that helped bring you to your bottom and finally VisionQuest.

 

All you need is deep within you

waiting to unfold and reveal itself.

All you have to do is be still and
take the time to seek what is within

and you will surely find it

                

 

 

Brief Denial Questionnaire:  


What denial patterns do you use? (Check as many as needed)

 

  • Avoidance: “I’ll talk about anything but my real problems!”
  • Absolute Denial: “No Not Me, I Don’t Have Problems!”
  • Minimizing: “My Problems Aren’t That Bad!”
  • Rationalizing: “If I Can Find Good Enough Reasons For My Problems, I Won’t Have To Deal With Them!”!”
  • Blaming: “If I Can Prove That My Problems Are not My Fault, I Won’t Have To Deal With Them!”
  • Comparing:  “Showing That Others Are Worse Than Me Proves That I Don’t Have Serious Problems!”
  • Compliance: “I’ll Pretend To Do What You Want If You’ll Leave Me Alone!”
  • Manipulating: “I’ll Only Admit That I Have Problems If You Agree To Solve Them For Me”
  • Flight Into Health: – “Feeling Better Means That I’m Cured!”
  • Recovery By Fear: “Being Scared Of My Problems Will Make Them Go Away!”
  • Strategic Hopelessness: “Since Nothing Works, I Don’t Have To Try!”
  • Democratic Disease State: “I Have The Right To Destroy Myself & No One Has The Right To Stop Me!”

 

Denial Pattern Checklist

Read the list of common denial patterns below and check any that apply to you.

 

Denial Pattern #1.  Avoidance:  I Say To Myself: “I’ll talk about anything but my real problems!”  Somewhere deep inside of me I am afraid that I might have a problem with alcohol or drugs that is hurting me and those that I care about. But when I don’t think or talk about it I feel OK.  So I think about other things and try to keep people from prying into my life where they don’t belong. My drinking and drugging is private and no one has a right to know anything about it.  If someone asks about it, I change the subject and start talking about other things that have nothing to do with my drinking and drugging.  If nothing else works, I’ll start an uproar by creating a bad crisis and making sure that they get sucked into it.  If all else fails I’ll play dumb and pretend that I don’t know what they’re talking about.

 

Denial Pattern #2.  Absolute Denial:  I Say To Myself: “No, not me!  I don’t have a problem!”   When others try to corner me, I tell “the big lie.” I say that I don’t have a problem with alcohol or drugs. No!  Not me!  Absolutely not!  I don’t drink too much!  I don’t use drugs!; I’m not addicted!  I never get sick or have problems because of drinking or drugging.  I am so good at convincing other people that there is nothing wrong that sometimes I actually start believing it myself.  When they believe my story a part of me feels really good because I beat them.  Another small part of me feels disappointed.  There is a small part that wants others to know what is really happening.  There is small scared part inside of me that wants help.

 

Denial Pattern #3:  Minimizing:  I Say To Myself: “My problems aren’t that bad!”  Sometimes my alcohol and drug problems get so bad that I can’t convince myself or others that I don’t have a problem.  When this happens I minimize.  I make the problems seem smaller than they really are.  Yes, I had a small problem with my drinking and drugging.  But it only happened that once.  It will never happen again.  Besides, the problem just wasn’t as bad as people think it is.
Denial Pattern #4.  Rationalizing:  I Say To Myself:  “If I can find good enough reasons for my problems, I won’t have to deal with them!”  I try to explain away my alcohol and drug problems by making up good explanations for why I drink and what’s “really” causing my problems.  Sometimes I’ll pretend to know a lot about alcoholism and addiction so other people will think that I know too much have a problem.  The truth is that I rarely if ever apply what I know to myself or to my own problems.

  

Denial Pattern #5.  Blaming:  I Say To Myself:     “If I can prove that my problems are not my fault, I won’t have to deal with them!”  When the problem gets so bad that I can’t deny it, I find a scapegoat.  I tell everyone that it’s not my fault that I have these problems with alcohol and drugs.  It’s somebody else’s fault.  I only abuse alcohol and drugs because of my partner.  If you were with a person like this, you’d abuse alcohol and drug too!  If you had a job or a boss like mine, you‘d drink and drug as much as I do. It seems that as long as I can blame someone else, I can keep drinking and drugging until that person changes.  I don’t have to be responsible for stopping.

 

Denial Pattern #6.  Comparing:  I Say To Myself:  “Showing that others are worse than me, proves that I don’t have serious problems!”  I start to focus on other people instead of myself.  I find others who have more serious alcohol and drug problems than I do and compare myself to them.  I tell myself that I can’t be addicted because I’m not as bad as they are.  I know what an addict is!  An addict is someone who drinks and drugs a lot more than I do!  An addict is someone who has a lot more alcohol and drug-related problems than I do.  An addict is someone who is not like me!  I tell myself that I can’t be addicted because there are other people who have worse problems with alcohol and drugs than I do.
Denial Pattern #7:  Compliance:  I Say To Myself: “I’ll pretend to do what you want, if you’ll leave me alone!”  I start going through the motions of getting help. I do what I’m told, no more and no less.  I become compliant and promise to do things just to get people off of my back.  I find excuses for not following through.  When I get caught, I tell people that I did the best that I could.  I blame them for not giving me enough help.  I tell people how sorry I am.  I ask for another chance, make another half hearted commitment, and the cycle of compliance tarts all over again.

 

Denial Pattern #8:  Manipulating:  I Say To Myself:  “I’ll only admit that I have problems, if you agree to solve them for me!”  When I my alcohol and drug problems box me into a corner, I start to manipulate.  I try to use the people who want to help me.  I try to get them to handle all of my problems and then get them to leave me alone so I can keep drinking and drugging. I’ll let them help me, but only if they do it for me.  I want a quick effortless fix.   If I they can’t fix me, I blame them for my failure and use them as an excuse to keep drinking and drugging.  I won’t let anyone make me do anything that I don’t want to do.  If they try, I’ll get drunk at them, blame them, and make them feel guilty.

Denial Pattern #9. Flight into Health:  I Say To Myself:  “Feeling better means that I’m cured!”  I manage to stay clean and sober for a while, and things start to get a little bit better.  Instead of getting motivated to do more, I convince myself that I’m cured and don’t need to do anything.  I tell myself that I may have had a drinking and drug problem, but I got into recovery and put it behind me.

 

Denial Pattern #10: Recovery By Fear:  I Say To Myself: “Being scared of my problems will make them go away!”  I began to realize that alcohol and other drugs can destroy my life, hurt those that I love, and eventually kill me.  The threat is so real that I convince myself that I can’t ever use alcohol or drugs again. I start to believe that this fear of destroying my life and killing myself will scare me into permanent sobriety.  Since I now know how awful my life will be if I continue to drink and drug, I just won’t drink or drug anymore.  If I just stop everything will be fine.  Since everything will be fine, I won’t need treatment or a recovery program.  I’ll just quite.

Denial Pattern #11: Strategic Hopelessness:  I Say To Myself: “Since nothing works, I don’t have to try”  I start to feel that I’m hopeless.  It seems like I’ve done it all and nothing works.  I don’t believe that I can change and big part of me just doesn’t want to try anymore.  It seems easier just to give up.  When people try to help me, I brush them off by telling them that I’m hopeless and will never recover.  When people do try to help me, I give them a hard time and make it impossible for them to help me.  I don’t understand why people want to help me.  It would be easier if they just let me keep drinking and drugging.

Denial Pattern #12.  The Democratic DiseaseState:  I Say To Myself:  “I have the right to destroy myself and no one has the right to stop me!”  I convince myself that I have a right to continue to use alcohol and drugs even if it kills me.  Yes, I’m addicted.  Yes I’m destroying my life.  Yes, I’m hurting those that I love.  Yes I’m a burden to society.  But so what?  I have the right to drink and drug myself to death.  No one has the right to make me stop.  Since my addiction is killing me anyway, I might as well convince myself that I’m dying because I want to.

 

 

Personalizing the Denial Patterns

We can become better at recognizing and managing our own denial if we personalize the denial patterns we selected.  This is done by writing a new title and description for each denial pattern we selected in our own words.

Here are some examples of personalized denial patterns.

1.  (Avoidance) Skating Off the Walls:  I know I’m using denial when I refuse to directly answer a question and keep trying to change the subject.

2.  (Absolute Denial)  Saying It Isn’t So:  I know I’m using denial when I tell people that I don’t have a problem even though I know deep inside that I do.

3.  (Minimizing)  Saying It Isn’t That Bad:  I know I’m using denial when I admit that I have a problem, but try to tell people that it isn’t as bad as they think it is.

4.  (Rationalizing) Giving Good Reasons:  I know I’m using denial when I try to convince people that there are good reasons for me to have the problem and that because there are good reasons I shouldn’t be responsible for having to deal with it.

5.  (Blaming) Saying It’s Not My Fault: I know I’m using denial when I try to blame someone else for my problem and deny that I a responsible for dealing with it.

6.  (Comparison) Criticizing Others:  I know I’m using denial when I point out how bad other people’s problems are and use that as am reason why my problems aren’t so bad.

7.  (Manipulating) Getting Over On Others:  I know I’m using denial when I try to get other people to handle the problems for me.

8.  (Recovery By Fear)  Scared Straight:  I know I’m using denial when I tell myself that I could never use alcohol or drugs again because I’m so afraid of what will happen if start drinking and drugging.

9.  (Compliance) Being A Good Little Boy:  I know I’m using denial when I start telling people what they want to hear to get them off of my back.

10.  (Flight Into Health) Suddenly Cured:  I know I’m using denial when I believe that my problems have suddenly gone away without my doing anything to solve them.

11.  (Strategic Hopelessness)  Why Bother:  I know I’m using denial when I tell myself that I can never solve my problems and that other people should just leave me alone.

12.  (Democratic Disease State)  I Have My Rights:  I know I’m using denial when I tell other people that I have right to use alcohol and drugs regardless of what happens and that they have no right to try and stop me.

 

Select the denial patterns that apply to you and write each one down on a separate sheet of paper.  Be sure to copy both the title and the description exactly as it is written on the checklist.

 

Personalizing the Denial Patterns

Write a personal title and description for each denial pattern.  The title needs to be a word or short phrase that captures what that denial pattern means to you in your own words.  It should be simple and easy to remember.

The description needs to be a single sentence that uses the following format:  I know I am using this denial pattern when:

 

 I start thinking  _____________, start feeling _____________, and start doing _____________.

 

It is important to be able to identify the exact words that go through your mind, the exact feelings you are experiencing, and exactly what you have an urge to do or start to do when you are using this warning sign.  The more concrete and specific this statement is, the easier it will be to complete the following exercises.

 

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